This is so beautiful and I so resonate with your question of where did the joy go? When did we start seeing things as chores instead of things we have the privilege to do? Chop wood - carry water. I am working on falling back in love with my life again.
I imagine that joy goes into the room where the have-to's live and closes the curtain. This indeed is a moving piece, and there are lots of things that require doing, but one way that works well for me is to think in terms of wanting to do something rather than needing to do it.
Yes! Wanting implies agency and is empowering - need to implies oppression - I believe these honest conversations are so important. So much toxic positivity and spiritual white washing out there
I'm not completely sure, but after reading a couple of your articles, it seems that when you say "toxic positively", you're talking about the superficial "little train that could" stuff that is prevalent these days. It's good to be positive, I agree, but we also need to deal with reality. If people are striving to be positive (or improve in whatever way), they are at the same time acknowledging their lack.
Anyway, I may have misinterpreted your intent, but I find it interesting that there's such a considerable desire for lightweight solutions.
Yes indeed I like to call it one foot in reality - one foot in possibility. So many people are caught up in (and teach their children) - you can be, do and have anything you want. The problem I have is that then when you find you can't it's easy to self shame.
This is so beautiful and I so resonate with your question of where did the joy go? When did we start seeing things as chores instead of things we have the privilege to do? Chop wood - carry water. I am working on falling back in love with my life again.
Not gonna lie, your comment made my eyes all misty and the screen a bit blurry.... thank you. 🥲
I imagine that joy goes into the room where the have-to's live and closes the curtain. This indeed is a moving piece, and there are lots of things that require doing, but one way that works well for me is to think in terms of wanting to do something rather than needing to do it.
Yes! Wanting implies agency and is empowering - need to implies oppression - I believe these honest conversations are so important. So much toxic positivity and spiritual white washing out there
I'm not completely sure, but after reading a couple of your articles, it seems that when you say "toxic positively", you're talking about the superficial "little train that could" stuff that is prevalent these days. It's good to be positive, I agree, but we also need to deal with reality. If people are striving to be positive (or improve in whatever way), they are at the same time acknowledging their lack.
Anyway, I may have misinterpreted your intent, but I find it interesting that there's such a considerable desire for lightweight solutions.
Yes indeed I like to call it one foot in reality - one foot in possibility. So many people are caught up in (and teach their children) - you can be, do and have anything you want. The problem I have is that then when you find you can't it's easy to self shame.